Word of the Day…

When I think of humility, it is not low self-esteem, it is however, a solid understanding of oneself and a love for oneself. It is an honest acknowledgment that all people have value, and that we should not raise ourselves above each other, as in the quoted definition, narcissists do. Mandela is described as “Humble,” his humility in my mind, is the correct one. A sense of yourself but also an acknowledgment that the world does not revolve around one individual and we must treat others with respect and being full of one’s own importance sits in direct opposition to this.

True leaders, and in my opinion beautiful people do not have to boast about themselves, and they do not boast about themselves or their achievements, which in essence makes others feel inadequate, they are at peace with who they are and can love with an open heart, from a humble perspective. Of course Jesus Christ, and Martin Luther King Jnr (he also writes about this a lot, especially in “Strength to Love”), along with many other brilliant and transcendent people are examples of this.

I think of humility as a more personal attribute rather than the traditional view which was to acknowledge a hierarchy. Humility to me, is accepting our own faults, without blaming others for these and not seeking to deny them, that in essence is what a narcissist does, he/she does not acknowledge they have faults, and therefore they are extremely dishonest and proud, the opposite of humility.

Humility is a rare and exquisite quality, that is sadly lacking in our narcissistic, self-centred world. If we all, actually chose to think of other people’s needs and desires as important, the world would be a much better place. (Though I am not talking about putting up with incorrect behaviour, or not having boundaries, these are essential for healthy relating, and creating better people.)

Humility:

Humility (adjectival form: humble) is variously seen as the act or posture of lowering oneself in relation to others, or conversely, having a clear perspective, and therefore respect, for one’s place in context. In a religious context this can mean a recognition of self in relation to a deity or deities, acceptance of one’s defects, and submission to divine grace or as a member of an organized, hierarchical religion. Absent a religious context humility can still take on a moral and/or ethical dimension.

Humility, in various interpretations, is widely seen as a virtue in many religious and philosophical traditions, often in contrast to narcissism, hubris and other forms of pride.

These People Slept On The Streets For Fun

This was what I participated in recently. The St Vinnies Community Sleepout, for me it was profound, moving and fun. Thanks to all my friends I could share it with. Special mention to the Global Happiness Project, that I am part of. 🙂

VOLUNTEERING ABROAD

“He spoke quietly not looking into the crowd, but so brave to tell us his experiences and story”

The night began as any other Sunshine Coast June winter night: frost, dew and complaints about the severe drop in temperature. This night however, was different. We (The Global Happiness Project) were huddled together, laughing, smiling and playing UNO, whilst sleeping on cardboard boxes at Maroochydore beach. Our team of 14 volunteers tackled the overnight challenge known as “The 2014 Vinnie’s Community Sleepout.”

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My poem “I remember” published in Grapeshot Magazine, Macquarie University, Sydney.

This poem is about the passing of my brother Steven Strong on June 7, 2010. (Grapeshot Magazine, p.40).

http://grapeshotmq.com.au/

My short story “Dancing Shoes” which is a light and dark comedy, will be published in The Quarry Journal at Macquarie University very soon.  I hope you enjoy it. Thanks for reading. Image

 

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Writing Therapy for Men

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Hello there,

Happy New Year and all of that. : )

I wanted to post about men undertaking writing therapy. Having conducted many workshops with women, I long been seeking men to participate in writing therapy. I approached my friend a while ago, and he only did the first few exercises, he stopped at the autobiography part. Sometimes it seems men will not want to go to some levels of emotion or pain for fear of what it will unearth. However, in my humble opinion, perhaps men need this more than women even. Women are used to sharing their emotions and I know men do this as well. With writing therapy men can express these deeper things without having to speak or have an audience it is between themselves and the page. This provides complete release and also allows them control over the process so they feel safe. I think writing therapy is quite an amazing tool for men. I will be conducting workshops again soon and I believe I have a few men attending.

Men need writing therapy but they shy away from it. I would love to know the thoughts of male readers of my blog. There are men dealing with a lot of trauma in the armed forces, police force, in different professions and stations in society. All people can and do benefit from writing therapy, though men seem more reluctant. Physiologically, men recover from emotional outbursts and arguments slower than women, they take longer to calm down. Their blood pressure and heart rate rises and stays up much longer than a woman. Is this why men fear emotion? I am not sure but either way, writing therapy is a gentle and healing way to address emotions. I was telling my male friend the other day who said he had been avoiding emotional issues, that once we face them they are released. If we face them they are not powerful over us. If we face them and write them down truthfully and deeply we are released.

I would appreciate any thoughts from my male readers.

Thanks for your time. Hear from you soon.

Suzanne

The Great Gatsby – how does it relate to Writing Therapy?

IMG137Having recently enjoyed seeing the film The Great Gatsby, I was not a little excited to see that within the story line, writing therapy is mentioned and recommended to Nick Caraway by his psychiatrist.

Nick has been through traumas with the demise of his friend Jay Gatsby, as well as the amoral way people behaved within the societal circles of a fictionalised place near New York. He is anxious, nervous and is suffering a psychiatric condition. His psychiatrist is listening to him, however, he says to Nick, (paraphrased):

“Take this journal. Write it all down as it was and happened.”

“I’m no good at writing, I have already tried that.”

“You don’t need to be, write down everything, tell the story as it was, no one need see it. You can burn it afterwards.”

So Caraway does, and he writes and writes and writes and releases himself from the strain and psychological pain that an experience like his can inflict. (A great piece of literature worth reading if you are ever interested.) His psychiatrist is describing perfectly, writing therapy.

Within this scene the essential tenets of writing therapy are communicated:

  1. Write down the incident, stress, or trauma, using narrative (one of the most effective forms though I do letters, autobiography and poetry as well in my workshops.)
  2. Be completely honest about your emotions about this event, worry, concern or anxiety. Do not censor yourself at all.
  3. Don’t worry about being a great writer, about grammar, or writing structure even, simply write the narrative in the way that you can. Write from your perspective or the perpetrators perspective if you’re bold (more release can be achieved this way, through empathy for the other).
  4. No one need see it. In fact write as if no one will ever see it. You can burn it, destroy it, publish it, shred it, have a ceremony and destroy it. The point is the writing is not for an audience, but to be completely confidential, unless you choose otherwise.

This is writing therapy, and it works, dramatically for people.

When it is examined, writing therapy has been utilised for centuries though has only been studied since the 1980s in a scientific manner. Through these studies, psychiatrists and others have shown that people can be completely healed from traumas, physically, mentally and emotionally. In fact the physical benefits were the most surprising. You can read about that here on my website.

Writing therapy is being honest with yourself, totally truthful or it doesn’t work and releasing yourself through the process of writing. It works. You do not need to be a writer. Writing prowess is actually irrelevant in this process. You do not even need to enjoy writing to practice writing therapy. By doing writing therapy you will come to enjoy writing even more as you experience freedom from worries, concerns and anxieties you didn’t think was possible. I will post more soon. Thanks for reading! Go well.

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