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Recently, I watched Jimmy Barnes, an Australian/Scottish rockstar talk about his new autobiography “Working Class Boy” and how he came to tell his life story. He talked about the horrendous abuse, neglect and trauma he experienced as a child. The interview also revealed about how he contemplated suicide, even when he was extremely successful. Then he, through the help of his wife and family decided to confront his past and give up drinking and drugs.
He bravely embarked on this journey. What was interesting to me was that he said he started to see a therapist, and they suggested he write it all down. He said “I was only able to confront my past by writing it down, otherwise I would not have been able to confront all of the trauma. When I did, I felt like I could finally put it behind me.”
Men, please, please listen to the men who are discovering writing therapy. There are too many men suffering in silence, with trauma and pain. In writing therapy you do not have to speak about your trauma, although with a good counsellor this would be excellent, but you allow yourself freedom to write it down. Write down all of the ugly thoughts and feelings and memories. Then you can burn or throw it away, and you never have to show anyone. This is why men benefit more from writing therapy than even women do. Because men finally have the freedom to express these emotions they are feeling underneath.
You can express your emotions in a safe way, and nothing you have gone through will overwhelm you in writing therapy because you are in control of what you write. The main thing is you allow yourself to be completely honest and raw about what you have gone through and you are experiencing.
Thanks Jimmy Barnes, for being honest and raw and showing other men that to face your demons, and use writing to do this, is not a weak thing to do, on the contrary, it is the strongest thing to do! I am so happy to see that Jimmy Barnes has embraced writing therapy. My dream is that men and boys and women and girls all around the world will begin to use these simple techniques that are well established to free themselves from trauma and pain.
Thanks for reading! Have a beautiful day! 😀
If you want to know how to start using writing therapy you can download my short book here:
I just wanted to let you know, Freedom Writing is available in print. I am an old school kind of girl and I prefer to read books in print. So here’s a link below for Freedom Writing in print. The Kindle version is easy to access but the print version is also easy as well, it is available on Amazon and is sold through various sellers. 🙂
Let me know what you think and feel free to leave a review as well on Amazon. Go well. 🙂
My book Freedom Writing is available for free download from September 13-17. If you have been curious about writing therapy and wanted to try some exercises or learn about it, this is the perfect time.
Feel free to download it and try it out. I know you won’t regret utilising writing therapy, it has freed many people around the world. Go well. Suzanne 😀
Freedom Writing has been sold and downloaded in 8 countries around the world; USA, the UK, Italy, India, Brazil, Canada, Australia and Singapore. I am excited that people can find out about how writing therapy can help them
I haven’t talked about my novel much on this blog. I am still writing it, though I have handed it into university, in July. I received an excellent response from the markers which I was surprised and pleased about. 🙂
I wanted to simply write about the process of writing this particular novella which was completely different to anything I had ever written, or to advice we receive on writing. From July last year to this year, I devoted myself to writing this novella. I left a job that required a lot of hours and travel and I worked part time on the side. I simply breathed this novel in and out for a whole year and I did not care much about anything else, except my children of course. 🙂
Firstly, we are always told to write what we know. What happens if you stumble upon a phenomenal story that will not leave you alone…and one that no one had fictionalised yet. I did. So I had to throw this rule out the window like a grenade and allow it to explode outside…(haha using war metaphors because my novella is about war.)
“Write about what you know.” Well, I think it could also be said, write about what sets you on fire inside. I am not saying I wasn’t nervous about writing a novel about war, written from the point of view of Kurdish women, when I did not have their experience, did not know the culture, and did not know what it was like to grow up in this region.
But still, this story burned within me as if they wanted me to write it. As I researched more and more into the real-life stories of women fighting in Syria against ISIS, my two main characters arose before me and spoke to me, as well as many others.
I was writing a war novella (I had not written about war before), from the point of view of women that I had not experienced their lives. There is the debate about whether we are allowed to write about marginalised people. Shouldn’t they write their own stories? The answer is yes. But I still am compelled to tell their story until they can tell it themselves. Writers always write things that challenge them and a lot of writers will write about events, characters or cultures they have not experienced. It is part of exploration isn’t it? 🙂
At first, I thought I would not be able to enter into their point of view. I told my supervisor, I must be crazy to do this. I don’t even write action–I write interior fiction about life…haha I was attempting something completely, in some ways, ridiculous. However, when you are compelled to write something, do not let others tell you that you can’t.
We should not underestimate the power of this inspiration, because maybe it is you who needs to tell this particular story. As Elizabeth Gilbert and many famous writers talk about, we need to go with inspiration when it gallops towards us, otherwise it may move on and we have lost it.
I felt an urgency to tell this story and I still do. Because these women were fighting until one year ago and their story needs to be told, now. Currently, I am itching to write a few more chapters and then send it out to agents and/or publishers. I am awaiting results from something I have entered.
With this novella, I had to research hours and hours and hours, on a daily basis. Watching documentaries, researching religion, history, geography of the middle east, Kurdish language, culture, food, music and immersing myself into the viewpoint of women who were raised there.
This is why I had to do little else, because it took these hours for me to be able to see things even remotely from their point of view. I am not sure if you have ever felt this, but I felt I was doing the thing I was born to do. There is nothing more precious than this in life. I have always wanted to be an author, since I was a very young child.
Part of this research involved me travelling to the middle east, well Israel specifically. I had long wanted to go to Israel for spiritual reasons separate to this novella. However, throughout my trip I was aware of absorbing the air, the food, the music, and feeling the atmosphere of being there in this tinder-like environment. Some parts of Israel feel like the wild, wild west. It is a phenomenal place, there is not a place like it. With its ancient history, culture and religious significance it is a profound place, and even this word does not convey it.
Travelling to the border with Syria I photographed into the devastation and talked to the UN soldiers about it. Syria looked flattened, devastated and forlorn. It was surreal to be in the location where I had been watching footage of war, for months and months. The week after I left ISIS crossed this very border and sought to attack Israel, they were shot dead – four men dressed in black with machine guns. ISIS had not attacked Israel the whole 3 years of this war and yet a week after I left they came across. (Maybe Daesh, ISIS feels they are losing, so they are desperate) I feel I was protected while I was there.
Being in the middle east did help me to immerse myself into aspects of their lives, though Israel is different to Syria. I also read the Kite Runner set in Afghanistan which helped me to understand somewhat the experience of growing up in these regions.
Anyway, this is probably enough to say now. 🙂 I wanted to say, that I worried about entering the worlds of my characters and their point of views, but I feel like I did in the end. My markers were happy with my writing so I felt very excited about that because we write alone and have no idea of how it will be received.
My advice to writers or others pursuing any passion–do what inspires you even if others say you shouldn’t do that, because we need more adventurous people like this. If you attempt something challenging–you have already won, even if you do not succeed. You were bold and brave! Which is what my novella is about, the phenomenal courage of these women in war!