Recently, I discovered research that showed that men benefit the most from writing therapy. I have always suspected this would be the case, as men are possibly more reluctant to share their feelings and may even feel ashamed as they feel they should be strong. In some cases, they are not aware of their emotions until it’s too late. Or they feel they cannot tell anyone.
Writing therapy allows men to write down these emotions with privacy, providing complete relief and they do not have to share it with anyone. That is the beauty of writing therapy. You are writing only for yourself, not for an audience.
Tragically, I recently learnt of the death of a young, bright and beautiful student I used to teach at University. Suicide affects men three times more than women. This has shown me the importance of trying to get more men to do writing therapy, I know it can help them. I want everyone to experience the freedom I have through writing therapy, but these findings with men do not surprise me.
I have written Freedom Writing to introduce writing therapy to everyone. I want to show everyone and particularly men they can use writing therapy to get rid of these negative emotions. We shouldn’t be losing these beautiful, bright men because they feel there is no other choice than to end it. What a tragedy. Do you see what I am saying?
Writing therapy provides effective healing from PTSD, researchers have discovered. I believe it should be taken into the armed forces where men and women are committing suicide after serving. They cannot reconcile what happened in war, I know writing therapy has the power to help them to write these down to remove these traumatic memories and emotions from their unconscious. I have met quite a few men who came back from war and are then shattered as people. Writing therapy crosses both sides of your brain and for these people I know it would provide freedom from these traumatic events that play over and over in your mind. I know because I have experienced this freedom.
Researchers have found writing therapy provides the most complete healing out of all the therapies, used with counselling. It provides greater release than simply talking but it does not replace a counsellor, it can be used by people to heal themselves. It goes deep inside the person and when used with a counsellor, it provides amazing relief.
Most people don’t seem to know what writing therapy is, I can tell you what it’s not.
- It is not just for writers, it does not involve learning creative writing techniques or academic techniques either.
- It rejects grammar or structural constraints, it is not about perfecting your writing.
- It is not about sharing our writing with anyone, unless we want to, but the idea is to write for yourself, and yourself only.
- You do not even have to be literate, people who were illiterate have used writing therapy by writing single words – and they were released from their negative emotions, whilst in hospital and saw improved physical health.
What is writing therapy then?
Neuro-scientists have found that we live 95% out of our unconscious, which means that even if you think you have dealt with your past and things that have happened to you, unless you have actually consciously dealt with it, then you haven’t removed it. It will be with your forever and it will affect your conscious life forever. Denial does not change this fact.
The simplicity of writing therapy is that it involves only two main tenets.
- Write down your deepest emotions about a traumatic experience, how it made you feel as a person, your rawest and deepest emotions about what happened. If you do not go deep, it will not work.
- Write down what happened to you as it happened but certain things you may not need to go into graphic detail, but simply write what happened.
I have experienced this in my own life using writing therapy, it powerfully freed me from a traumatic episode nine years ago. In addition to this, I have run many workshops and seen many people be freed from negative memories, emotions, stress, resentment, anxiety and depression inside them.
My book contains different exercises and questions to lead you through a process, to start you out with writing therapy. You can do writing therapy any time you need, and you can use these methods for the rest of your life.
In my book, I have the experiences of others in regard to writing therapy, my own story, research showing the physical, mental, emotional and spiritual healing writing therapy brings. It is so simple. Please join me in freeing yourself from things you may not even be aware were affecting you. Go well and be well. Suzanne